EXPRESSIONS

Communication is one of the most essential ingredients in any relationship.  So what is it? It is the ability to exchange ideas and or information by talk, gestures, or writing. It is an active ingredient found in any meaningful relationship.

We need to be mindful of a number of things that are vital to sustaining relationship.  Some of these are controlling our use of angry or unkind words, and ensuring our words are words of healing. Or the control of our use of words of endearment that others may perceive as offensive.

Listening forms an integral part as this also is another form of communication. As we do this we do so with our heart, listening with understanding to the one who is speaking.  Expressing our feelings and allowing ourselves to exercise compassion for each other.  We all have different communication styles however this should not be seen as a negative thing as we become more mature we grow and develop our communication skills. 

The use of endearments has become an offence to some folks as the headline reveal that drivers could face the sack if they call their female passenger babes.  They were also reminded not to be over -friendly with female passenger or they could face the sack. The use of this endearment has become a way of speech with many and so hearing that the use of endearment could result in the loss of your job reflects the importance of effective communication.http://www.metro.co.uk/news/888933-brighton-bus-drivers-banned-from-calling-female-passengers-babe

 Many reported that using endearment like babes was just their way of referring to someone  whose names they have forgotten. As the debate goes on it will be noted that we have to respect each other and if one does not like strangers or their work colleague using this endearment when referring to them then so be it.

Let us develop the attitude of learning the art of remembering names so that we will not opt to using these terms of endearment instead of names; as many remarks that it can indeed make them feel uncomfortable.

Let us be reminded that communication is not only about words spoken but about our expressions when we speak, our facial expression and our body language is important as this  also reflect our thoughts and attitude. When we speak let us be mindful of our tone of voice as this often is responsible for our effectiveness when we communicate.  We are reminded that two thirds of the intent of our message is communicated non- verbally.

As we converse with each other let us seek to develop a good relationship. Let us be mindful that we are different. Consequently endeavour to do our best to respect others as this will lend itself to a good relationship. “Walk Good” which is to say “goodbye.”